One in three millennials are planning to live at home with their parents until they are 30, new research shows. Unaffordable real estate in Australia’s biggest
Why does there seem to be more young adults still living with their parents?
Simply put, it’s highly expensive.
I’m currently an adult child living at home, looking for a job after I’ve recently graduated with my bachelor’s degree. I’ve done some part time work to help with bills when I can, but I also help out at home in other ways. My mom could use some help with errands and cooking, and so I run those errands and cook for her almost every night, especially because it’s something I enjoy doing and she hates. I know who I’m living with and I know that I’ll always have a home because it’s my mom and her door’s always open to me, even though she doesn’t have much to offer beyond a roof over my head and food in the cupboards, for which I will forever be grateful.
Renting a house is expensive, roommates are unpredictable (even if it’s your best friend since childhood), car payments, insurance, healthcare if you’re of a certain age/tax bracket and it’s not covered by your employment, food, clothing- everything is expensive, and wages haven’t gone up a whole lot in the past several years. Inflation has gone out of control. Plus, many of us adult children are college graduates who are trying to pay off several thousand dollars of student loan debt for educations we were told would help us get a job, but it doesn’t. Most of my friends actually avoided getting work in their field until they had a Master’s degree, and I know of at least one person who’s going for his doctorate in the next couple of years. A lot of the people I know of who are doing amazing things and are living on their own my age are married or living with their significant other, because it’s easier to afford everything if there’s two incomes instead of one.
I know I’m not moving out of my mom’s house anytime soon, and she knows that. When I eventually move in pursuit of a better job, she’ll follow me unless she can’t for whatever reason. And that’s okay. She’s assured me that this is okay and she doesn’t want me to leave because I “have” to, due to the fact that everyone around me isn’t living with their parents. And if I do move out and at the end of six months I move back in with her? That’s okay too. Her concern is that I’m safe, happy, and healthy and that I’m doing what I want to do, not entirely what societal standards dictate I “must” do. And if that means I’m living with my mom until I get married, then that’s what that means.
Living with my mom allowed me to pursue my education, which I may not have been able to do had I been living on my own. It’s allowed us to grow closer together. It’s allowed her to teach me things I’ll need to learn about being an adult that no school teaches you, such as reading a rental agreement properly, how to properly budget, what to do in case XYZ has happened. How to properly clean the gunk out of something. Color combinations, pattern combinations, and fabrics that work in clothing (I have always struggled with this so this will be an ongoing process as I learn more about my professional clothing tastes). So that way when I am ready to move out, whether because I’m married or because I feel it’s time, I know what I’m doing and I’m not calling her every week for help.
An adult child living with their parents shouldn’t be seen as shameful, unless the person is contributing nothing to their parents’ households, either by way of education, helping out, or working to help afford an extra person using electricity, heat, Internet, etc. But for an adult child who’s trying to better themselves, or moved in to help an ailing parent? Why is there shame in that?